Ocean Lessons

Feeling alive!  What I know for sure is that the more you feel alive, the more likely you are to get closer to the work that truly engages you!

A weekend by the ocean.  I had been to Tofino a long time ago, before its popularity exploded.  The community of 1,800 expands to about 22,000 on a summer day.  Though its appeal also includes winter storm watching, the promises of sun and surf calls visitors.

The last weekend of September was perfect in the weather department.  I was sitting on the sand at Chesterman Beach when I thought how much being out in the wind and elements was connecting me to what it means to be alive.

On this part of the West Coast, the shore stretches out like a fan and the ocean goes on forever.  Surfers in wet suits dot water and sand.  The beach area expands and contracts with the tides.

As I walked along the waves’ edge, I watched the spray of seawater as it crashed against a rocky outcrop.  When I felt the cold water touching my feet, I looked down.

The minnow was stranded on the sand, flapping its head and tail.  The next wave was no where near the tiny fish so I used a shell to toss it back into the water. 

 It swam away from the ocean to a pool of water which was full of its buddies.  I couldn’t distinguish it anymore.

Out of the corner of my eye, I caught a movement.  A crow sitting higher up on the outcrop.  It was bending over.

When I looked closer, I could see the crow was near a tidal pool.  The next moment I saw the crow.    

3 fishes in its beak!

My heroic rescue was in vain. 

Nature has blatant lessons.  Harsh even.  And yet life and its perpetual change is what underpins everything we do.

From our day-to-day work activities to choosing what work we want to all of our dreams and passions, we understand everything is always in motion.

Through looking at the world from that tiny fish’s perspective and then the crow, I saw some connections to finding work that matters.

There will always be a squirm factor.

“You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”  Anonymous

There is a discomfort in following your dreams.  In order to grow in the way that you want, it will require stepping out of the coziness of your life and into something new.

The challenge is to develop some sort of ease with the uncertainty. 

The Art of Surrender

“Surrender isn’t about giving up.  It’s about letting go.”  Anonymous

At first when I watched that little fish flopping on the ground, I saw it suddenly stop. I figured it was conserving energy. I can imagine that it was feeling some discomfort. Was it surrendering?

Waiting for the wave also reminded me that at some point there is a need to surrender when wanting to embark on a new career path.  Like the fish though, it doesn’t mean giving up, it means understanding that something much bigger is happening. 

That fish had no idea when the next wave was coming, but indeed it knew that it would happen because that’s the way it has always worked. 

The surrender to me is about not pushing too hard, but to pay attention really to what is pulling you.  What is capturing your attention?  What really inspires you?  Where lies your desire? 

The idea is to listen carefully because some of what pushes is what needs to be let go. 

Helping each other

“Individually, we are one drop.  Together, we are an ocean.”  Ryunosuke Satoro

I know that fish just wanted to get back to the rest of the school.  Indeed when I tossed it back into the water, it took no time to find its buddies.  That crew knew about the strength in numbers. 

What I hear from people who have experienced success in life is how much their success has happened because of all their helpers along the way, people who have rooted and encouraged and been there for them. 

In finding work that matters to you, the chances are you will come to a point where you question yourself, where you wonder if you should choose an easier road.  At this moment, you need someone who believes in you more than you are believing in yourself.

Surround yourself with those people

We are all interconnected. 

"Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution."  Deepak Chopra

Watching the crow holding 3 fishes in its mouth reminded me of the chain of life, that there is a place for fishes and crows.  Each part of the chain is critical to the next. 

And so it is with finding that work where you will shine your best.  Where is your place? 

It reminds me of the lyrics from a Fred Penner song:

“Always search for an answer until your strength is found.” 

For more inspiration about how nature can help you, check out this video:


Leading a Remarkable Life

What is this experience of living on this Pale Blue Dot?

As you think about careers, your contribution and what you love to do, what is at the nucleus is connecting with what is alive in you.

To me, the feeling of being alive I can see when I look back at my life.  At the births of each of my children, I felt connected to something larger than myself.  The experience also seemed to occupy every cell in my body.  

When I completed a walk-a-thon as a teenager, while my body was tired, it was also tingling with all of the excitement of what I had accomplished.  I also felt alive when my heart was broken.  The feeling of being alive is painful and joyful, ordinary and extraordinary and so much more.  

Can you think of a time when you felt truly alive?  How would you describe the feeling? 

CHRIS GUILLEBEAU, REMARKABLE HOST OF THE WORLD DOMINATION SUMMIT.  PHOTO:  ARMOSA STUDIOS

CHRIS GUILLEBEAU, REMARKABLE HOST OF THE WORLD DOMINATION SUMMIT.  PHOTO:  ARMOSA STUDIOS

A few days ago, I returned from Portland where I attended the World Domination Summit.  As you can tell from the name, it is an event that is full of big ideas.  The question behind the summit is, “How do you lead a remarkable life in a conventional world?” 

The speakers, attendees and organizers have a good helping of curiosity, enthusiasm, and wanting to contribute to the world.  And so they are – from creative endeavours to community involvement to personal challenges.  It is all about having that full experience of being alive.

 Lots of ideas.  I know this is what makes me feel alive, turning that object in my hand over and over so I can see it from all sides.  One of the speakers, Lissa Rankin who explores the idea of finding our calling asked, “What is that thing that called you when you were less than 10?” 

I loved everything about books and school supplies.  I was awed by our local library and had a goal to read every one of those books.  I began with A.   Lucky for me, I was the eldest of 4 children so I had my ready-made classroom where I could teach what I was learning. 

That curiosity about how things worked was well rooted by the time I was 10.  I wanted to understand the world, what patterns arose and how it all fit together.  I can see now that the careers I chose had those elements.  Astroarchaeologist.  Homeschooler.  Computer Instructor.  Career Passionista.

How old were you when you discovered that core part of you that needed to be expressed?  What mattered to you?

From that place, you can get some good clues about what it means to be alive and in particular what taps into that well of aliveness. 

When I am in yoga class, I get a real sense of being alive in a body way that spills into other aspects of me.  Being so present in a moment, to see the beauty, to tap into the wonder of it all is available to us at any time.  The feeling of being alive is never far away. 

Your feelings of being alive can be felt on a physical level but it is also emotional, mental and spiritual.  Your sense of being alive is usually when you are engaged versus when you are participating passively such as TV or web surfing.   The appeal of extreme sports like bungee jumping and zip lining, is connected to that whole sense of being alive,  having a full body experience.

Music, art, dance and other ways of self expression connects us to feeling alive.  If you were to think of it in one word, perhaps it would be “yes!”   You see it in others, the sparkle in their eye, the brightening of their face, a sense of full engagement. 

Tapping into the feeling of being alive begins when you are young and newly discovering the world to hopefully the day that you die.  As you discover more about the wonders of this world, getting into contact with aliveness grows and grows.  It is a part of your curiosity. 

The journey is both individual and full of companions.  Your aliveness is invigorated when you find your tribe, the group of people that share your passions.  Whether it is being a part of an Olympic team or a book club, the interchange and exchange of ideas brings you alive.  It often spills over into other areas of your life.  Getting hooked on the notion that you want to reach your fullest potential, you are excited when you see that happening in others. 

As you begin to consider your "brilliant career," I encourage you to spend some time getting a sense of that feeling, even if it is hard to describe in words.  Where do you feel it in your body?  What kind of quality does it exude? 

This is your guidepost.  When you are in danger of straying away from yourself, this is what you come back to, to help you get on the path.  On your path.  Your own unique path. 

Below are some links to inspire you as you consider what makes you feel alive:

Falling In Love With Your Own Life

Ted Talk - Louie Schwartzberg – Founder, Blacklight Films

http://www.upworthy.com/clear-your-next-10-minutes-because-this-video-could-change-how-happy-you-are-with-your-entire-week?c=ufb1

40 Ways to Feel More Alive

            Tiny Buddha – Lori Deschene

            http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-feel-more-alive/

When Death Comes

            Reading by Mary Oliver

            http://www.ttbook.org/listen/80896

Pale Blue Dot

            Carl Sagan

            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p86BPM1GV8M